Mommy Wars?

I've read some recent commentary on "Mommy Wars", i.e. the war between stay at home and working mothers. As a new mom, I have tried to digest all the stories in the NY Times, Salon.com, etc. and try to figure out how I really feel. I've concluded that the folks that really drive me nuts are the sanctimonious ones on each side. The conservatives who lambast working mothers that put their kids in daycare when we don't have a choice and act like we are responsible for society's failings. (Well, I guess I do have a choice, and it is choosing to pay the rent.) The feminists equally piss me off when they downplay the awesome feeling of parental attachment to a child and the way parenting is so rewarding in its own way. If I had a choice I would stay at home! Time to read, see my kid, learn how to play the guitar...I'd love it. I count myself as a feminist, and this really bothers me.

Thoughts from other moms?